Welcome back to another edition of Midweek Motivation. This weekly series is here to give you the kick in the bottom you need to succeed as a blogger every Wednesday. No need to get down in my neck of the woods. I am here to provide you motivations and lessons from one blogger to another so that you can conquer all your dreams and face all your fears. This week we are talking about comparison and why you need to stop comparing yourself to other creatives.
One of my favorite sayings and one that I think all bloggers should take to heart is the quote above. It's so easy to compare yourself to others and get upset for all the wrong reasons. Comparison will get you nowhere. The only thing that comparison is good for is making you upset and taking you out of your most productive element. You can't get anywhere if you are constantly upset and worried over what other bloggers in your niche are doing.
Besides, you can accomplish so much more with those bloggers by your side.
When you compare yourself to all the other bloggers in your niche you are essentially relegating yourself to be behind them. If you are jealous, petty, or downright rude to people in your niche you are missing out on the chance to form amazing friendships that will last far longer than any of the feelings you have now.
I am not telling you that it will be easy to squash the feelings that everyone else is succeeding and you am not, but I am telling you that it will be worth it to do so. These feelings that you have, are the feelings that everyone has at some point or another, but in order to grow you have to get out a competition mode.
That person who was constantly comparing themselves to other people used to be me. I used to wonder why people were getting all the sponsored post opportunities or why they were getting all the money. I had so much to offer, after all. At the end of the day I had to realize that I truly don't know what they are going through. On the surface it may look like they have it all together, but I don't know them personally. A few weeks ago on my Instagram page for The Happy Arkansan I shared the following message:
The grass is always greener on someone else's side. It's also probably pretty filtered so don't take it at face value. 💕
This message still rings true for me today. You never know what is happening on the other end. It could be filtered, it could be real, but that's not for you to decide.
People can get advice from any number of individuals. The online space is big enough for everyone, you just have to find your audience. You have to find the group of people who will love your content, follow you on social media, buy your stuff. That will come with effort and time.
Instead of worrying about where other bloggers are in comparison to you, learn from them.
- Digest their blog content.
- Take their courses.
- Subscribe to their email lists.
- Collaborate with them on guest posts and JV webinars.
Instead of fighting with them, work with them.
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I want you to do something for me:
Every time you think about other bloggers to compare yourself to them do something awesome for your blog. Brainstorm a new topic idea, spend five minutes interacting on a social media platform, meditate or journal, answer a question in a Facebook group, etc. Do something that moves your business forward.
Life is too short to spend so much time worrying about other people. At the end of the day you have to rest well knowing that you spent your day being productive and moving your business to the next level.
When it's time to clock out of your business and call it a night, you are the only person you have to answer to. If you let yourself down because you focused too much on Sally, Susie, and Sandy you are the only one who wouldn't have met your goals. They are successful because they water their grass and you should be doing the exact same thing.
Perk up, set your goals, and slay your goals girl! You are passionate, capable, and you are going to do amazing things. Set your comparison hat to the side and start working with other bloggers instead of feeling jealous when they meet and exceed their goals.